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An Encouragement for Prayer

Paul continues his teachings on Christian living.

An Encouragement for Prayer.

Living wisely among non-believers.

Colossians 4:1-6 NLT
An Encouragement for Prayer
4:1 Masters, be just and fair to your slaves. Remember that you also have a Master—in heaven.
Devote yourselves to prayer with an alert mind and a thankful heart. Pray for us, too, that God will give us many opportunities to speak about his mysterious plan concerning Christ. That is why I am here in chains. Pray that I will proclaim this message as clearly as I should.
Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.

Examine the Scriptures:

Colossians 4:1-6 NLT
An Encouragement for Prayer 

4:1 Masters, be just and fair to your slaves.

This verse is a continuation of the theme in verses 18-25 of chapter 3.

Today this addresses employers or those in authority over others.

  • Employers, be just and fair to your employees.

Slaves or bondservants made up 1/3 of the population (or more) according to some commentators.

Paul’s words to masters are striking for their time. In a culture where slavery was a normal part of social and economic life.  Slaves were often treated as property. It was unusual for a writer to urge masters to consider the wellbeing of their slaves, much less treat them with justice and fairness.

This is a call to humility, empathy, and godly leadership.

  • Christ-centered living transforms every relationship. 

Remember that you also have a Master—in heaven.

This tells those in authority today to treat those under their care with justice and fairness, always mindful that they themselves are accountable to God.

This is a call for mutual respect and justice in any and all relationships.

We live in a society where everyone is accountable to someone in one way or another.

Romans 13:1 NLT
13:1 Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God.

  • Justice in leadership reflects God’s heart.

Think about Colossians 4:1 in terms of 1 Corinthians 12.

1 Corinthians 12 NLT
12 The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ. 13 Some of us are Jews, some are Gentiles, some are slaves, and some are free (some are employers and some re employees). But we have all been baptized into one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit. 

18 But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it. 19 How strange a body would be if it had only one part! 20 Yes, there are many parts, but only one body. 21 The eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you.”

So God has put the body together such that extra honor and care are given to those parts that have less dignity. 25 This makes for harmony among the members, so that all the members care for each other. 26 If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad.

 Devote yourselves to prayer with an alert mind and a thankful heart. 

  • Believers should be devoted to prayer,

Prayer is essential for spiritual growth.

Other thoughts about prayer:

Prayer should be continual.

1 Thessalonians 5:17 NLT
17 Never stop praying.

Romans 12:12 NLT
12 Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.

Pray with an alert mind.

1 Thessalonians 5:6 NLT
So be on your guard, not asleep like the others. Stay alert and be clearheaded.

Ephesians 6:18 NLT
18 … Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.

Pray with a thankful heart.

Philippians 4:6 NLT
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 NLT
18 Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.

Be watchful in light of Christ’s return. (Stay alert)

Matthew 24:42 NLT
42 “So you, too, must keep watch! For you don’t know what day your Lord is coming.

Mark 13:35-37 NLT
35 You, too, must keep watch! For you don’t know when the master of the household will return—in the evening, at midnight, before dawn, or at daybreak. 36 Don’t let him find you sleeping when he arrives without warning. 37 I say to you what I say to everyone: Watch for him!”

Revelation 16:15 NLT
15 “Look, I will come as unexpectedly as a thief! Blessed are all who are watching for me, who keep their clothing ready so they will not have to walk around naked and ashamed.” 

  • Persistent, thankful prayer needs to be a part of our daily lives. 

Pray for us, too,

  • Paul frequently asked individuals and churches to pray for him.

that God will give us many opportunities to speak about his mysterious plan concerning Christ. That is why I am here in chains. 

“his mysterious plan”

Colossians 1:26-27 NLT
26 This message was kept secret for centuries and generations past, but now it has been revealed to God’s people. 27 For God wanted them to know that the riches and glory of Christ are for you Gentiles, too. And this is the secret: Christ lives in you. This gives you assurance of sharing his glory. 

Ephesians 6:19 NLT
19 And pray for me, too. Ask God to give me the right words so I can boldly explain God’s mysterious plan that the Good News is for Jews and Gentiles alike.

  • Pray for opportunities to proclaim the Good News.

2 Corinthians 2:12 NLT
12 When I came to the city of Troas to preach the Good News of Christ, the Lord opened a door of opportunity for me.

Paul, imprisoned at the time, does not ask for release—but for open doors to share the gospel.

This reflects a deep gospel-centered mindset.

Ephesians 6:18-20 NLT
18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.
19 And pray for me, too. Ask God to give me the right words so I can boldly explain God’s mysterious plan that the Good News is for Jews and Gentiles alike. 20 I am in chains now, still preaching this message as God’s ambassador. So pray that I will keep on speaking boldly for him, as I should. 

2 Thessalonians 3:1 NLT
3:1 Finally, dear brothers and sisters, we ask you to pray for us. Pray that the Lord’s message will spread rapidly and be honored wherever it goes, just as when it came to you. 

Pray that I will proclaim this message as clearly as I should.

Romans 1:14 NLT
14 For I have a great sense of obligation to people in both the civilized world and the rest of the world, to the educated and uneducated alike.

Proclaim the gospel at an age-appropriate level.

  • Pray for boldness and clarity in sharing the gospel. 

Live wisely among those who are not believers, 

James 3:13, 17 NLT
13 If you are wise and understand God’s ways, prove it by living an honorable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom.

17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. 

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 NLT
11 Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before. 12 Then people who are not believers will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others. 

  • Wise conduct with non-believers can win hearts. 
  • Your conduct can either open or close doors for the gospel. Time is short—live intentionally. 

and make the most of every opportunity. 

  • Make the most of every opportunity God gives you to share the Good News and to serve others.

Think of the following in terms of being a teacher at RDS:

Colossians 1:28 NLT
28 So we tell others about Christ, warning everyone and teaching everyone with all the wisdom God has given us. We want to present them to God, perfect in their relationship to Christ.

2 Timothy 4:2 NLT
Preach the word of God. Be prepared, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching. 

Let your conversation be gracious and attractive (seasoned with salt – NIV) so that you will have the right response for everyone.

Kind, loving, patient, respectful

Engaging, wise, life-giving

Powerful

Wholesome

Well-chosen words

Salt is both a seasoning and a preservative.

Matthew 5:13 NLT
13 “You are the salt of the earth. But what good is salt if it has lost its flavor? Can you make it salty again? It will be thrown out and trampled underfoot as worthless.

Ephesians 4:29 NLT
29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. 

Colossians 3:8 NLT
But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language.

  • Christians should be known for speaking truth with grace. Wisdom in speech can both challenge and attract.

Absalom’s Defeat and Death

Absalom’s Defeat and Death

2 Samuel 18:1-18 NLT
Absalom’s Defeat and Death
18:1 David now mustered the men who were with him and appointed generals and captains to lead them. He sent the troops out in three groups, placing one group under Joab, one under Joab’s brother Abishai son of Zeruiah, and one under Ittai, the man from Gath. The king told his troops, “I am going out with you.”
But his men objected strongly. “You must not go,” they urged. “If we have to turn and run—and even if half of us die—it will make no difference to Absalom’s troops; they will be looking only for you. You are worth 10,000 of us, and it is better that you stay here in the town and send help if we need it.”
“If you think that’s the best plan, I’ll do it,” the king answered. So he stood alongside the gate of the town as all the troops marched out in groups of hundreds and of thousands.
And the king gave this command to Joab, Abishai, and Ittai: “For my sake, deal gently with young Absalom.” And all the troops heard the king give this order to his commanders.
So the battle began in the forest of Ephraim, and the Israelite troops were beaten back by David’s men. There was a great slaughter that day, and 20,000 men laid down their lives. The battle raged all across the countryside, and more men died because of the forest than were killed by the sword.
During the battle, Absalom happened to come upon some of David’s men. He tried to escape on his mule, but as he rode beneath the thick branches of a great tree, his hair got caught in the tree. His mule kept going and left him dangling in the air. 10 One of David’s men saw what had happened and told Joab, “I saw Absalom dangling from a great tree.”
11 “What?” Joab demanded. “You saw him there and didn’t kill him? I would have rewarded you with ten pieces of silver and a hero’s belt!”
12 “I would not kill the king’s son for even a thousand pieces of silver,” the man replied to Joab. “We all heard the king say to you and Abishai and Ittai, ‘For my sake, please spare young Absalom.’ 13 And if I had betrayed the king by killing his son—and the king would certainly find out who did it—you yourself would be the first to abandon me.”
14 “Enough of this nonsense,” Joab said. Then he took three daggers and plunged them into Absalom’s heart as he dangled, still alive, in the great tree. 15 Ten of Joab’s young armor bearers then surrounded Absalom and killed him.
16 Then Joab blew the ram’s horn, and his men returned from chasing the army of Israel. 17 They threw Absalom’s body into a deep pit in the forest and piled a great heap of stones over it. And all Israel fled to their homes.
18 During his lifetime, Absalom had built a monument to himself in the King’s Valley, for he said, “I have no son to carry on my name.” He named the monument after himself, and it is known as Absalom’s Monument to this day.

Examine the Scriptures

2 Samuel 18:1-18 NLT
Absalom’s Defeat and Death

18:1 David now mustered the men who were with him and appointed generals and captains to lead them. 

David organized his troops in preparation for an encounter with Absalom and his troops.

  • David’s methodical preparation shows his leadership strength being put into action.

King David is widely considered a highly skilled and successful military leader. 

He sent the troops out in three groups, placing one group under Joab, one under Joab’s brother Abishai son of Zeruiah, and one under Ittai, the man from Gath.

A three pronged attack was a customary military strategy.

Judges 7:16 NLT Gideon Defeats the Midianites 

16 He divided the 300 men into three groups and gave each man a ram’s horn and a clay jar with a torch in it.

1 Samuel 11:11 NLT Saul vs. the Ammonites

11 But before dawn the next morning, Saul arrived, having divided his army into three detachments. He launched a surprise attack against the Ammonites and slaughtered them the whole morning. The remnant of their army was so badly scattered that no two of them were left together.

1 Samuel 13:16-17 NLT Used by the Philistine army

16 … The Philistines set up their camp at Micmash. 17 Three raiding parties soon left the camp of the Philistines. One went north toward Ophrah in the land of Shual, 18 another went west to Beth-horon, and the third moved toward the border above the valley of Zeboim near the wilderness. 

The king told his troops, “I am going out with you.”

Unlike:

2 Samuel 11:1 NLT
David and Bathsheba
11:1 In the spring of the year, when kings normally go out to war, David sent Joab and the Israelite army to fight the Ammonites. They destroyed the Ammonite army and laid siege to the city of Rabbah. However, David stayed behind in Jerusalem.

  • David wanted to be a part of this military campaign. 

But his men objected strongly. “You must not go,” they urged. “If we have to turn and run—and even if half of us die—it will make no difference to Absalom’s troops; they will be looking only for you.

You are worth 10,000 of us, and it is better that you stay here in the town and send help if we need it.”

  • David’s comrades insisted that he remained behind.

The counsel of many.

Proverbs 11:14 NLT
Without wise leadership, a nation falls;
there is safety in having many advisors.

Proverbs 15:22 NLT
Plans go wrong for lack of advice;
Many advisors bring success. 

Note:   David was getting old and was no longer the warrior he had once been.

David was likely in his 60s or 70s during the events of 2 Samuel 18.

All of Absalom’s troops were looking to kill David.

2 Samuel 17:1-4 NLT (Ahithophel speaking)
17:1 Now Ahithophel urged Absalom, “Let me choose 12,000 men to start out after David tonight. I will catch up with him while he is weary and discouraged. He and his troops will panic, and everyone will run away. Then I will kill only the king, and I will bring all the people back to you as a bride returns to her husband. After all, it is only one man’s life that you seek. Then you will be at peace with all the people.” This plan seemed good to Absalom and to all the elders of Israel.

  • If David were killed, the whole cause would be lost and Absalom would become the next king.

“If you think that’s the best plan, I’ll do it,” the king answered. So he stood alongside the gate of the town as all the troops marched out in groups of hundreds and of thousands.

No one knows the size of David’s army, but it appears to have grown.

And the king gave this command to Joab, Abishai, and Ittai: “For my sake, deal gently with young Absalom.” And all the troops heard the king give this order to his commanders.

  • David reluctantly agreed to stay behind but commanded his officers that they not harm Absalom.

“Young Absalom” is used in this verse and in verses 12, 29, and 32.

David’s love for his son was undying and almost his undoing.

From a future lesson:

2 Samuel 19:5-7 NLT
Then Joab went to the king’s room and said to him, “We saved your life today and the lives of your sons, your daughters, and your wives and concubines. Yet you act like this, making us feel ashamed of ourselves. You seem to love those who hate you and hate those who love you. You have made it clear today that your commanders and troops mean nothing to you. It seems that if Absalom had lived and all of us had died, you would be pleased. Now go out there and congratulate your troops, for I swear by the Lord that if you don’t go out, not a single one of them will remain here tonight. Then you will be worse off than ever before.”

  • David’s command regarding Absalom (“Deal gently with young Absalom”) reveals his deep paternal love for Absalom despite Absalom’s rebellion against David. It sets up a painful tension between David’s role as king and as father.

David’s order to spare Absalom shows how difficult it is for him to separate justice from mercy.

 So the battle began in the forest of Ephraim, and the Israelite troops were beaten back by David’s men. There was a great slaughter that day, and 20,000 men laid down their lives. The battle raged all across the countryside, and more men died because of the forest than were killed by the sword.

It seems like David’s army of experienced soldiers could effectively attack a much larger force, most of whom were apparently unable to maneuver well in the dense forest.

God is clearly behind David’s victory.
“more men died because of the forest than were killed by the sword”
God used his creation to defeat Absalom’s army.

  • The Israelite troops were beaten back by David’s men. There was a great slaughter that day, and 20,000 men laid down their lives. 

During the battle, Absalom happened to come upon some of David’s men. He tried to escape on his mule,

Mules were ridden by the royal family in David’s kingdom.

It appears that the forest (God) caused chaos for Absalom’s army.

But as he rode beneath the thick branches of a great tree, his hair got caught in the tree. His mule kept going and left him dangling in the air. 

  • Absalom became a victim of the elements of the inhospitable terrain.

Absalom’s “famous long hair” became his downfall.

2 Samuel 14:25-26 NLT
25 Now Absalom was praised as the most handsome man in all Israel. He was flawless from head to foot. 26 He cut his hair only once a year, and then only because it was so heavy. When he weighed it out, it came to five pounds!

  • Absalom’s pride, notably his hair, contributes to his downfall.

Food for thought:
His death hanging in a tree also evokes Deuteronomy 21:23: “a man hanged on a tree is cursed,” implying divine judgment.

Deuteronomy 21:23 NLT
23 … for anyone who is hung[a] (on a tree) is cursed in the sight of God. …

Footnotes
21:23 Greek version reads for everyone who is hung on a tree. 

10 One of David’s men saw what had happened and told Joab, “I saw Absalom dangling from a great tree.”

11 “What?” Joab demanded. “You saw him there and didn’t kill him? I would have rewarded you with ten pieces of silver and a hero’s belt!”

  • Joab’s actions and interests did not always coincide with David’s wishes.

At times David was unable to control Joab.

Example:
2 Samuel 3:39 NLT
39 And even though I am the anointed king, these two sons of Zeruiah—Joab and Abishai—are too strong for me to control. So may the Lord repay these evil men for their evil deeds.”

12 “I would not kill the king’s son for even a thousand pieces of silver,” the man replied to Joab. “We all heard the king say to you and Abishai and Ittai, ‘For my sake, please spare young Absalom.’ 13 And if I had betrayed the king by killing his son—and the king would certainly find out who did it—you yourself would be the first to abandon me.”

  • One of David’s soldiers found Absalom dangling from a branch of a large tree but the soldier refused to harm Absalom further because he had heard David order his men not to harm Absalom. 

14 “Enough of this nonsense,” Joab said. Then he took three daggers and plunged them into Absalom’s heart as he dangled, still alive, in the great tree. 

Joab felt differently than the soldier who had spared Absalom’s life.

15 Ten of Joab’s young armor bearers then surrounded Absalom and killed him.

  • Joab and his armor bearers disobeyed a direct order of David (see verse 5).
  • Joab acts decisively, believing the rebellion must end completely.

These men wanted Absalom completely out of the picture. 

16 Then Joab blew the ram’s horn, and his men returned from chasing the army of Israel. 

  • After Absalom’s death, Joab calls off the pursuit, signaling the rebellion’s end.

David’s army appeared to be in control. 

17 They threw Absalom’s body into a deep pit in the forest and piled a great heap of stones over it.

This is not a formal or honorable burial. Being tossed into a pit and covered with stones is more akin to the burial of a criminal or someone disgraced.

Being buried away from family tombs was considered shameful, again highlighting Absalom’s tragic end.

Similar imagery is seen in the deaths of Achan (Joshua 7:26) and the king of Ai (Joshua 8:29)—both marked by a pile of stones that served as a visible sign of divine judgment.

Joshua 7:26 NLT
26 They piled a great heap of stones over Achan, which remains to this day. That is why the place has been called the Valley of Trouble ever since. So the Lord was no longer angry.

Joshua 8:29 NLT
29 Joshua impaled the king of Ai on a sharpened pole and left him there until evening. At sunset the Israelites took down the body, as Joshua commanded, and threw it in front of the town gate. They piled a great heap of stones over him that can still be seen today.

  • Absalom’s body was thrown into a deep pit in the forest and a great heap of stones was piled over it. 

And all Israel fled to their homes. 

The narrative shifts to a strange epilogue about Absalom’s monument, which he had built for himself 

18 During his lifetime, Absalom had built a monument to himself in the King’s Valley, for he said, “I have no son to carry on my name.”

2 Samuel 14:27 NLT
27 He (Absalom) had three sons and one daughter. His daughter’s name was Tamar, and she was very beautiful.

He named the monument after himself, and it is known as Absalom’s Monument to this day.

  • Absalom had already erected a memorial to his own name in the Kidron Valley.

Absalom was not unique in doing this.

1 Samuel 15:12 NLT
12 Early the next morning Samuel went to find Saul. Someone told him, “Saul went to the town of Carmel to set up a monument to himself; then he went on to Gilgal.”

Absalom was a vain, prideful, and ambitious man.

The monument became a symbol of Absalom’s pride and tragic end.

  • This contrasts starkly with his actual fate: buried in a pit and covered with stones—a dishonorable end, far from the glory he desired.

Absalom’s desire for legacy ends in disgrace. The “monument” becomes a symbol of failed ambition and rebellion against God’s anointed.

Absalom’s ambition leads to personal ruin and national bloodshed, underscoring the dangers of pride and disloyalty.

Comments from commentaries.

For generations, people threw stones at it in contempt of Absalom’s rebellion against his father.

Today there is a monument (a different monument), a tomb, in that area called Absalom’s tomb on which orthodox Jews spit when passing by.

Instructions for Christian Households

Paul’s instructions for Christian households.

Wives and husbands
Children and fathers
Slaves and masters
Employees and employers

The overarching theme is that all relationships within a Christian context should be governed by the principles of love, respect, and a recognition of Christ’s Lordship over all aspects of life.

Colossians 3:18-25 NLT
Instructions for Christian Households
18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.
19 Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.
20 Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.
22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything you do. Try to please them all the time, not just when they are watching you. Serve them sincerely because of your reverent fear of the Lord. 23 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. 24 Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ. 25 But if you do what is wrong, you will be paid back for the wrong you have done. For God has no favorites.

Examine the Scriptures:

Colossians 3:18-25 NLT
Instructions for Christian Households 

18 Wives, submit to your husbands,

The word “submit” in this context refers to a willing, respectful, and cooperative attitude, not inferiority.

In the current culture, many wives were treated as “property”.  This kind of submission would be a new concept for many of the current husband/wife relationships at this point in time.

Note:

1 Corinthians 11:3 NLT
But there is one thing I want you to know: The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

Submission is not a bad thing.

Christ submits to the Father.

This is not a one-way street.

Verses 18 & 19 go together. 

as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.

“Fitting” means “appropriate” or “suitable” for someone who follows Jesus.

A wife is not obligated to follow her husband’s leadership if it conflicts with Biblical principles.

The same principle found in Ephesians.

Ephesians 5:21-24 NLT
21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
 (mutual submission)

22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

  • Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord.

This submission is not blind obedience or inferiority, but rather a relational posture that reflects Christ-centered humility. It’s within the context of mutual love and respect, not domination. 

19 Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.

The husband’s role is not authoritarian but one of love and sacrifice (echoing Ephesians 5:25).

The husband’s love must be gentle, not overbearing or cruel.

At the time this was written, husbands had legal and societal authority, Paul balances the prior verse with a call to love. The Greek word for love here is agapao—sacrificial love. It challenges cultural norms by demanding gentleness and respect, reflecting Christ’s love for the Church.

Violence, threats, and unkind words are not acceptable in a Christian home.

Ephesians 5:25-29 NLT
25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.

  • Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church.
  • The relationship between husbands and wives is meant to mirror Christ and the church—a dynamic of love, honor, and mutual care. 

20 Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord. 

Ephesians 6:1-3 NLT
6:1 Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” 

Exodus 20:12 NLT
12 “Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the Lord your God is giving you. 

  • Children should be taught to honor and obey their parents.

This obedience assumes that the parents are acting within the bounds of Christian love and wisdom. Obedience does not extend to things that contradict God’s commands. 

Acts 5:29 NLT
29 But Peter and the apostles replied, “We must obey God rather than any human authority. 

21 Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.

Ephesians 6:4 NLT
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

This principle applies to both parents.

  • Fathers, do not provoke or frustrate your children by the way you treat them.

Paul is not saying to avoid correction or discipline. Rather, he encourages a balance—discipline guided by love, patience, and affirmation.

  • Overly strict or unfair treatment can crush a child’s spirit, leading to resentment or apathy. 

22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything you do.

Colossians 4:9 NLT
I am also sending Onesimus, a faithful and beloved brother, one of your own people. He and Tychicus will tell you everything that’s happening here. 

Note:
Most likely Paul wrote Philemon at the same time as Colossians and sent it to Colosse with the same travelers, Onesimus and Tychicus. He apparently wrote both letters from prison.
Paul wrote this letter to Philemon, a believer in Colosse who, along with others, was a slave owner. One of his slaves, Onesimus, had apparently stolen from him and then run away, which under Roman law was punishable by death. But Onesimus met Paul and through his ministry became a Christian. Now he was willing to return to his master, and Paul writes this personal appeal to ask that he be accepted as a Christian brother.

Ephesians 6:5-9 NLT
Slaves and Masters
Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ. Try to please them all the time, not just when they are watching you. As slaves of Christ, do the will of God with all your heart. Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Remember that the Lord will reward each one of us for the good we do, whether we are slaves or free.
Masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Don’t threaten them; remember, you both have the same Master in heaven, and he has no favorites.

  • Obey those in authority over you with deep respect and fear.
  • Christian faith establishes relationships that change the nature of the social structure.

Philemon 15-16 NLT
15 It seems you lost Onesimus for a little while so that you could have him back forever. 16 He is no longer like a slave to you. He is more than a slave, for he is a beloved brother, especially to me. Now he will mean much more to you, both as a man and as a brother in the Lord. 

Try to please them all the time, not just when they are watching you.

  • True integrity means working diligently even when no one is watching. 

Serve them sincerely because of your reverent fear of the Lord. 23 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.

This is a powerful reminder that our ultimate Master is Jesus, not earthly authorities. 

  • Our ultimate Master is Jesus, not earthly authorities. 

24 Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ. 

  • All Christians, both slave and free, serve a higher master, Christ, whose will is paramount. 

25 But if you do what is wrong, you will be paid back for the wrong you have done. For God has no favorites.

  • God holds us accountable for our actions.

God judges fairly, regardless of status—there is accountability for everyone.

 

Christ-centered living transforms every relationship.

Authority should be exercised with love and responsibility. 

  • All relationships within a Christian context should be governed by the principles of love, respect, and a recognition of Christ’s Lordship over all aspects of life.

 

Hushai Saves David

Hushai Saves David

In this lesson, we will see the unfolding drama of Absalom’s rebellion against his father, King David.

We will clearly see how God gives Hushai a critical role in shaping the events of this narrative.

Again, this passage demonstrates the power of divine intervention in human affairs.

This is another lesson on human behavior.

2 Samuel 17:11-29 NLT
Hushai Saves David
11 “I recommend that you mobilize the entire army of Israel, bringing them from as far away as Dan in the north and Beersheba in the south. That way you will have an army as numerous as the sand on the seashore. And I advise that you personally lead the troops. 12 When we find David, we’ll fall on him like dew that falls on the ground. Then neither he nor any of his men will be left alive. 13 And if David were to escape into some town, you will have all Israel there at your command. Then we can take ropes and drag the walls of the town into the nearest valley until every stone is torn down.”
14 Then Absalom and all the men of Israel said, “Hushai’s advice is better than Ahithophel’s.” For the Lord had determined to defeat the counsel of Ahithophel, which really was the better plan, so that he could bring disaster on Absalom!

Hushai Warns David to Escape
15 Hushai told Zadok and Abiathar, the priests, what Ahithophel had said to Absalom and the elders of Israel and what he himself had advised instead. 16 “Quick!” he told them. “Find David and urge him not to stay at the shallows of the Jordan River tonight. He must go across at once into the wilderness beyond. Otherwise he will die and his entire army with him.”
17 Jonathan and Ahimaaz had been staying at En-rogel so as not to be seen entering and leaving the city. Arrangements had been made for a servant girl to bring them the message they were to take to King David. 18 But a boy spotted them at En-rogel, and he told Absalom about it. So they quickly escaped to Bahurim, where a man hid them down inside a well in his courtyard. 19 The man’s wife put a cloth over the top of the well and scattered grain on it to dry in the sun; so no one suspected they were there.
20 When Absalom’s men arrived, they asked her, “Have you seen Ahimaaz and Jonathan?”
The woman replied, “They were here, but they crossed over the brook.” Absalom’s men looked for them without success and returned to Jerusalem.
21 Then the two men crawled out of the well and hurried on to King David. “Quick!” they told him, “cross the Jordan tonight!” And they told him how Ahithophel had advised that he be captured and killed. 22 So David and all the people with him went across the Jordan River during the night, and they were all on the other bank before dawn.
23 When Ahithophel realized that his advice had not been followed, he saddled his donkey, went to his hometown, set his affairs in order, and hanged himself. He died there and was buried in the family tomb.
24 David soon arrived at Mahanaim. By now, Absalom had mobilized the entire army of Israel and was leading his troops across the Jordan River. 25 Absalom had appointed Amasa as commander of his army, replacing Joab, who had been commander under David. (Amasa was Joab’s cousin. His father was Jether, an Ishmaelite. His mother, Abigail daughter of Nahash, was the sister of Joab’s mother, Zeruiah.) 26 Absalom and the Israelite army set up camp in the land of Gilead.
27 When David arrived at Mahanaim, he was warmly greeted by Shobi son of Nahash, who came from Rabbah of the Ammonites, and by Makir son of Ammiel from Lo-debar, and by Barzillai of Gilead from Rogelim. 28 They brought sleeping mats, cooking pots, serving bowls, wheat and barley, flour and roasted grain, beans, lentils, 29 honey, butter, sheep, goats, and cheese for David and those who were with him. For they said, “You must all be very hungry and tired and thirsty after your long march through the wilderness.”

Examine the Scriptures

2 Samuel 17:11-29 NLT
Hushai Saves David 

11 “I recommend that you mobilize the entire army of Israel, bringing them from as far away as Dan in the north and Beersheba in the south. 

Review:

2 Samuel 15:34 NLT (David talking to Hushai)
34 Return to Jerusalem and tell Absalom, ‘I will now be your adviser, O king, just as I was your father’s adviser in the past.’ Then you can frustrate and counter Ahithophel’s advice.

  • Hushai, who was secretly loyal to David, cleverly countered Ahithophel’s plan to immediately attack David with a small force.

bringing them from as far away as Dan in the north and Beersheba in the south.

Meaning from the northernmost to the southernmost parts of Israel.

Refer to a Bible map. 

That way you will have an army as numerous as the sand on the seashore.

+ Hushai’s plan would produce an overwhelmingly superior fighting force.

–  This plan would take longer to implement.

Verse 14 tells us that Ahithophel actually had the better plan.

“the counsel of Ahithophel, which really was the better plan”.

(more about this later.) 

  • In reality, Ahithophel’s battle plan was better than the plan Hushai had proposed. 

And I advise that you personally lead the troops. 

This plan appealed to Absalom’s vanity and desire for glory, as it positioned him as a powerful leader. 

  • Hushai’s plan appealed to Absalom’s vanity. 

12 When we find David, we’ll fall on him like dew that falls on the ground. Then neither he nor any of his men will be left alive. 

Notice, Hushai says “we”.  Hushai cleverly links himself with the revolt.

Hushai’s ability to gain Absalom’s trust is crucial. 

13 And if David were to escape into some town, you will have all Israel there at your command. Then we can take ropes and drag the walls of the town into the nearest valley until every stone is torn down.”

  • Hushai’s imagery pictures a total destruction of David and his men.

Review Ahithophel’s plan: 

Ahithophel proposes an immediate attack on David while he is weary and unprepared.

His plan is strategic: a swift strike would create panic, isolate David, and allow him to be killed without a prolonged war.

This would be a victory for Absalom that would not weaken the nation.

Hushai’s plan involved far more death and destruction. 

14 Then Absalom and all the men of Israel said, “Hushai’s advice is better than Ahithophel’s.”

Absalom’s acceptance of Hushai’s plan highlights the blinding nature of pride. His desire for personal glory led to his eventual demise. 

  • Absalom’s acceptance of Hushai’s plan highlights the blinding nature of pride. 

For the Lord had determined to defeat the counsel of Ahithophel, which really was the better plan, so that he could bring disaster on Absalom!

the Lord had determined to defeat the counsel of Ahithophel, which really was the better plan, so that he could bring disaster on Absalom!

  • The Lord had determined to defeat the rebellion of Absalom.
  • Absalom’s power grab was doomed from the start.

Hushai Warns David to Escape

15 Hushai told Zadok and Abiathar, the priests, what Ahithophel had said to Absalom and the elders of Israel and what he himself had advised instead. 16 “Quick!” he told them. “Find David and urge him not to stay at the shallows of the Jordan River tonight. He must go across at once into the wilderness beyond. Otherwise he will die and his entire army with him.”

  • David and his men were currently in a very venerable position.

Hushai’s advice is for David to cross the Jordan River, knowing that Absalom might change his mind and immediately set out after David.

Hushai informed the priests Zadok and Abiathar about Absalom’s decision. They, in turn, sent their sons Ahimaaz and Jonathan to warn David.

Review:

2 Samuel 15:35-36 NLT
35 Zadok and Abiathar, the priests, will be there. Tell them about the plans being made in the king’s palace, 36 and they will send their sons Ahimaaz and Jonathan to tell me what is going on.” 

17 Jonathan and Ahimaaz had been staying at En-rogel so as not to be seen entering and leaving the city. Arrangements had been made for a servant girl to bring them the message they were to take to King David. 

En-rogel is a spring on the outskirts of Jerusalem,

  • An unnamed servant girl played a crucial role in passing this message discreetly on to Jonathan and Ahimaaz.

A servant girl going to the spring for water would attract no attention.

18 But a boy spotted them at En-rogel (Jonathan and Ahimaaz), and he told Absalom about it. So they quickly escaped to Bahurim,

Refer to a Bible map

where a man hid them down inside a well in his courtyard. 19 The man’s wife put a cloth over the top of the well and scattered grain on it to dry in the sun; so no one suspected they were there.

  • Jonathan and Ahimaaz’s mission was intercepted, and they were forced to hide in a well. 

20 When Absalom’s men arrived, they asked her, “Have you seen Ahimaaz and Jonathan?”

The woman replied, “They were here, but they crossed over the brook.” Absalom’s men looked for them without success and returned to Jerusalem.

21 Then the two men crawled out of the well and hurried on to King David. “Quick!” they told him, “cross the Jordan tonight!” And they told him how Ahithophel had advised that he be captured and killed.  

22 So David and all the people with him went across the Jordan River during the night, and they were all on the other bank before dawn.

  • Jonathan and Ahimaaz eventually reached David, urging him to cross the Jordan River to safety. 

23 When Ahithophel realized that his advice had not been followed, he saddled his donkey, went to his hometown, set his affairs in order, and hanged himself. He died there and was buried in the family tomb.

  • When Ahithophel realized that his advice had not been followed, he saddled his donkey, went to his hometown, set his affairs in order, and hanged himself.

This act highlights Ahithophel’s pride and his inability to cope with the rejection of his wisdom.

His suicide underscores his profound despair and the perceived dishonor.

This passage highlights the contrast between the characters of Ahithophel and Hushai. Ahithophel was proud and self-assured, while Hushai was humble and loyal. 

24 David soon arrived at Mahanaim.

David’s trip from the Jordan River to Mahanaim would have been 30-40 miles.

  • Going to Mahanaim places David and his troops in a fortified position, allowing time to regroup and prepare for the impending confrontation.

Mahanaim had served as the capital of Israel under Ish-Bosheth.

2 Samuel 2:10 NLT
10 Ishbosheth, Saul’s son, was forty years old when he became king, and he ruled from Mahanaim for two years. 

Ish-bosheth was the second king of Israel, succeeding his father Saul after his death at the Battle of Mount Gilboa. He reigned for several years from the city of Mahanaim. 

By now, Absalom had mobilized the entire army of Israel and was leading his troops across the Jordan River. 25 Absalom had appointed Amasa as commander of his army, replacing Joab, who had been commander under David. (Amasa was Joab’s cousin (and David’s nephew). His father was Jether, an Ishmaelite. His mother, Abigail daughter of Nahash, was the sister of Joab’s mother, Zeruiah.) 

  • Absalom had appointed Amasa as commander of his army, replacing Joab, who had been commander under David. 

Joab is not specifically mentioned as accompanying David when he fled from Jerusalem during However, Joab remained loyal to David throughout the rebellion.

Amasa was a nephew of David.

Amasa was a cousin of Joab, Abishai, and Absalom. 

26 Absalom and the Israelite army set up camp in the land of Gilead. 

27 When David arrived at Mahanaim,

he was warmly greeted by Shobi son of Nahash, who came from Rabbah of the Ammonites, 

and by Makir son of Ammiel from Lo-debar, 

and by Barzillai of Gilead from Rogelim. 

Shobi, Makir, and Barzillai were not direct relatives of David but were loyal allies who provided him and his people with supplies when he fled from Absalom. 

Shobi was a son of Nahash, the king of Ammon.

Makir was from Lo-debar and had previously taken care of Mephibosheth,

Barzillai was an elderly and wealthy individual of Gilead from Rogelim. 

Refer to a Bible map.

  • David still had loyal allies.

28 They brought sleeping mats, cooking pots, serving bowls, wheat and barley, flour and roasted grain, beans, lentils, 29 honey, butter, sheep, goats, and cheese for David and those who were with him.

Shobi, Makir, and Barzillai supplied the necessary essentials such as sleeping mats and food needed to sustain David and his weary followers.

These men demonstrated true friendship and played a crucial role in David’s eventual victory.

For they said, “You must all be very hungry and tired and thirsty after your long march through the wilderness.”

This passage demonstrates the power of divine intervention in human affairs. God had determined to thwart Ahithophel’s wise counsel. Hushai’s seemingly foolish advice was actually God’s instrument to protect David and ultimately fulfill His promises to him.

Putting on the New Life

Putting on the New Life

Review:

Colossians 2:13-14 NLT
13 You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. 14 He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross.

Previously:

Colossians 3:5 NLT
So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you.

Current lesson:

Colossians 3:12 NLT
12 clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.  

This lesson tells us how we should live because of what God has done for us.

 

Colossians 3:11-17 NLT
Putting on the New Life
11 In this new life, it doesn’t matter if you are a Jew or a Gentile, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbaric, uncivilized, slave, or free. Christ is all that matters, and he lives in all of us.
12 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 14 Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.
16 Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. 17 And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.

Examine the Scriptures:

Colossians 3:11-17 NLT

Putting on the New Life

11 In this new life, it doesn’t matter if you are a Jew or a Gentile, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbaric, uncivilized, slave, or free.

Galatians 3:28 NLT
28 There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus. 

Romans 11:17 NLT
17 But some of these branches from Abraham’s tree—some of the people of Israel—have been broken off. And you Gentiles, who were branches from a wild olive tree, have been grafted in. So now you also receive the blessing God has promised Abraham and his children, sharing in the rich nourishment from the root of God’s special olive tree.

Christ is all that matters, and he lives in all of us.

  • Christ is all that matters, and he lives in all of us.

All previous social, ethnic, and cultural divisions are erased.

  • Christ transcends all barriers and unifies people from all cultures, races, and nations.

Jesus binds all Christians together in equality.

Christ defines our identity. 

12 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves,

Chosen by God.

Loved by God.

Holy – set apart for God.

  • As Christians, we are chosen by God, set apart for God (holy), and loved by God.

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves,   you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.  

  • Christians are instructed to clothes themselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience

13 Make allowance for each other’s faults,

and forgive anyone who offends you.

Believers must be willing to forgive others.

Grudges have no place in a Christian’s life for they lead to the sins listed in verses 8-9.

Colossians 3:8-9 NLT
But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language. Don’t lie to each other, …

  • Forgive anyone who offends you. 

Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. 

Ephesians 4:32 NLT
32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Forgiving others graciously and freely.

  • Forgiveness is central to Christian living.

Matthew 6:14-15 NLT
14 “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. 15 But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Note: Forgiveness is not a condition for Salvation.  Salvation is a gift.

When Christians sin, it disrupts their daily relationship with God. Confessing sins and seeking forgiveness, both from God and from those we have wronged, is necessary to restore that fellowship and right relationships.

If we truly understand God’s mercy, we should naturally extend that same mercy to others.

Unforgiveness can lead to bitterness and broken relationships.

If we expect God to forgive us but refuse to forgive others, we are being hypocritical. 

14 Above all, clothe yourselves with love,

1 Corinthians 13:13 NLT
13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

Matthew 22:34-40 NLT
34 But when the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees with his reply, they met together to question him again. 35 One of them, an expert in religious law, tried to trap him with this question: 36 “Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?”
37 Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”

which binds us all together in perfect harmony.

Love is presented as the ultimate virtue, the “perfect bond of unity” that holds everything together. 

  • Love is the glue that ensures harmony and completeness in the Christian life. 

15 And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace.

Philippians 4:6-7 NLT
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. 

The peace of Christ is to rule in our hearts, fostering unity and harmony.

One evidence of God’s peace ruling in our hearts is harmonious relationships with other believers.

  • Let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. 

And always be thankful.

Colossians 1:11-12 NLT
11 … May you be filled with joy, 12 always thanking the Father. He has enabled you to share in the inheritance that belongs to his people, who live in the light. 

Colossians 4:2 NLT
Devote yourselves to prayer with an alert mind and a thankful heart.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 NLT
18 Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 

More in verses 16 – 17.

  • Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 

16 Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives.

Here it would refer to the teaching about Christ as well as his own words passed on orally to the early Christians.

For us it refers to the Scriptures.

Psalm 119:11 NLT
11 I have hidden your word in my heart,
that I might not sin against you.
 

Psalm 119:105 NLT
105 Your word is a lamp to guide my feet
and a light for my path.

Joshua 1:8 NLT
Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.

Hebrews 4:12 NLT
12 For the word of God is alive and powerful. 

  • Scripture should permeate every aspect of the believer’s life and control every thought, word, and deed. 

 Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. **

  • Believers need to be filled with the truth of God’s Word, using it to teach and encourage one another.

Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. 

Ephesians 5:15-20 NLT
Living by the Spirit’s Power
15 So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. 16 Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. 17 Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. 18 Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, 19 singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts. 20 And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Music is a powerful form of communication.

Songs can often be more powerful than spoken words because they combine multiple elements—melody, rhythm, and lyrics—to evoke emotions and create a deeper, more lasting impact.

  • Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. 

17 And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus,

  • We are Christ’s ambassadors.

2 Corinthians 5:20 NLT
20 So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!”

  • We are the salt of the earth and the light of the world.

Matthew 5:13-16 NLT
13 “You are the salt of the earth. …
14 “You are the light of the world …  16 In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.

1 Corinthians 10:31 NLT
31 So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.

  • So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.

Every aspect of a believer’s life should be lived as an act of worship to Christ.

  • Teachers, stand in front of your classrooms as a representative of the Lord Jesus. **

 giving thanks through him to God the Father. 

Here again the theme of thankfulness is being repeated. 

 

 

Ahithophel Advises Absalom

Ahithophel Advises Absalom
&
Hushai Counters Ahithophel’s Advice

We are at the part in our story when David and his group of loyal followers just left Jerusalem and Absalom and his followers are now arriving at Jerusalem.

2 Samuel 16:15-17:11a NLT
Ahithophel Advises Absalom
15 Meanwhile, Absalom and all the army of Israel arrived at Jerusalem, accompanied by Ahithophel. 16 When David’s friend Hushai the Arkite arrived, he went immediately to see Absalom. “Long live the king!” he exclaimed. “Long live the king!”
17 “Is this the way you treat your friend David?” Absalom asked him. “Why aren’t you with him?”
18 “I’m here because I belong to the man who is chosen by the Lord and by all the men of Israel,” Hushai replied. 19 “And anyway, why shouldn’t I serve you? Just as I was your father’s adviser, now I will be your adviser!”
20 Then Absalom turned to Ahithophel and asked him, “What should I do next?”
21 Ahithophel told him, “Go and sleep with your father’s concubines, for he has left them here to look after the palace. Then all Israel will know that you have insulted your father beyond hope of reconciliation, and they will throw their support to you.” 22 So they set up a tent on the palace roof where everyone could see it, and Absalom went in and had sex with his father’s concubines.
23 Absalom followed Ahithophel’s advice, just as David had done. For every word Ahithophel spoke seemed as wise as though it had come directly from the mouth of God.
17:1 Now Ahithophel urged Absalom, “Let me choose 12,000 men to start out after David tonight. I will catch up with him while he is weary and discouraged. He and his troops will panic, and everyone will run away. Then I will kill only the king, and I will bring all the people back to you as a bride returns to her husband. After all, it is only one man’s life that you seek. Then you will be at peace with all the people.” This plan seemed good to Absalom and to all the elders of Israel.

Hushai Counters Ahithophel’s Advice

But then Absalom said, “Bring in Hushai the Arkite. Let’s see what he thinks about this.” When Hushai arrived, Absalom told him what Ahithophel had said. Then he asked, “What is your opinion? Should we follow Ahithophel’s advice? If not, what do you suggest?”
“Well,” Hushai replied to Absalom, “this time Ahithophel has made a mistake. You know your father and his men; they are mighty warriors. Right now they are as enraged as a mother bear who has been robbed of her cubs. And remember that your father is an experienced man of war. He won’t be spending the night among the troops. He has probably already hidden in some pit or cave. And when he comes out and attacks and a few of your men fall, there will be panic among your troops, and the word will spread that Absalom’s men are being slaughtered. 10 Then even the bravest soldiers, though they have the heart of a lion, will be paralyzed with fear. For all Israel knows what a mighty warrior your father is and how courageous his men are.

11 “I recommend that …

Examine the Scriptures

2 Samuel 16:15-17:11a NLT
Ahithophel Advises Absalom

15 Meanwhile, Absalom and all the army of Israel arrived at Jerusalem, accompanied by Ahithophel. 

We are now at the part in our story when David and his group of loyal followers just left Jerusalem and Absalom and his followers are now arriving at Jerusalem.

  • Absalom, having gained significant support, enters Jerusalem triumphantly.

Ahithophel’s presence is significant—he was one of David’s wisest counselors, and his defection to Absalom represents both betrayal and the gravity of the rebellion.

David just lost the support of someone who would have been a part of his inner circle of advisors.

The support of people is shifting to Absalom. 

16 When David’s friend Hushai the Arkite arrived, he went immediately to see Absalom. “Long live the king!” he exclaimed. “Long live the king!”
17 “Is this the way you treat your friend David?” Absalom asked him. “Why aren’t you with him?”

This is a good, insightful question.  You better listen carefully to the answer.  Make sure that you are not just hearing what you want to hear.


18 “I’m here because I belong to the man who is chosen by the Lord and by all the men of Israel,” Hushai replied. 19 “And anyway, why shouldn’t I serve you?

  • Read “between the lines” and notice the illusiveness of Hushai’s response.

Hushai’s words were deliberately ambiguous.

He was in fact an agent of the true king, King David.  David was the man chosen by the Lord.  Hushai avoided using the king’s name, leading Absalom to believe that Hushai was loyal to him rather than to David.

Note: Hushai does not say that he will serve Absalom. 

Just as I was your father’s adviser, now I will be your adviser!” 

  • Hushai’s ability to gain Absalom’s trust is crucial to David’s survival.

Review:
2 Samuel 15:32 NLT

32 When David reached the summit of the Mount of Olives where people worshiped God, Hushai the Arkite was waiting there for him.
Hushai had torn his clothing and put dirt on his head as a sign of mourning. 33 But David told him, “If you go with me, you will only be a burden. 34 Return to Jerusalem and tell Absalom, ‘I will now be your adviser, O king, just as I was your father’s adviser in the past.’ Then you can frustrate and counter Ahithophel’s advice. 

David sends Hushai back to Jerusalem to act as a spy within Absalom’s court. He is tasked with countering the counsel of Ahithophel, Absalom’s chief advisor, whose advice was highly regarded. 

  • In reality David had sent Hushai back to Jerusalem to act as a spy within Absalom’s court. His role was to counter the advice Ahithophel was giving Absalom. 

20 Then Absalom turned to Ahithophel and asked him, “What should I do next?”
21 Ahithophel told him, “Go and sleep with your father’s concubines, for he has left them here to look after the palace.

  • In the Near East, taking possession of a previous king’s harem was a direct claim to his throne.
  • Absalom slept with David’s concubines to assert or strengthen his claim to the throne.

Then all Israel will know that you have insulted your father beyond hope of reconciliation, and they will throw their support to you.”

This was a definitive and irreversible declaration of the break between father and son, making reconciliation virtually impossible. 

22 So they set up a tent on the palace roof where everyone could see it, and Absalom went in and had sex with his father’s concubines.

This is a fulfillment of Nathan’s prophecy. 

Review:
Nathan rebukes David

2 Samuel 12:11 NLT
11 “This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view.

  • Absalom was making it clear that he was claiming the throne.

Absalom’s shameful act echoed David’s adultery with Bathsheba, which also began on that roof.

  • The consequences of David’s past sin now unfold in his own household.

The fulfillment of Nathan’s prophecy reminds us that sin has consequences, even for great leaders like David. 

23 Absalom followed Ahithophel’s advice, just as David had done. For every word Ahithophel spoke seemed as wise as though it had come directly from the mouth of God.

  • Ahithophel’s advice was highly valued, first by David and now by Absalom.

“For every word Ahithophel spoke seemed as wise as though it had come directly from the mouth of God.”  

Hushai’s assignment was going to be challenging.

Though it seems Absalom is succeeding, God is at work through Hushai to overturn Ahithophel’s counsel and bring David back to the throne.

Remember: God is an all-powerful sovereign God.

2 Samuel 7:8-9 NLT
“Now go and say to my servant David, ‘This is what the Lord of Heaven’s Armies has declared: I took you from tending sheep in the pasture and selected you to be the leader of my people Israel. I have been with you wherever you have gone, and I have destroyed all your enemies before your eyes. Now I will make your name as famous as anyone who has ever lived on the earth!

Jeremiah 32:26-27 NLT
26 Then this message came to Jeremiah from the Lord: 27 “I am the Lord, the God of all the peoples of the world. Is anything too hard for me?

Matthew 19:26 NLT
26 Jesus looked at them intently and said, “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But with God everything is possible.” 

17:1 Now Ahithophel urged Absalom, “Let me choose 12,000 men to start out after David tonight.

Ahithophel suggests that he himself lead the force against David.

 I will catch up with him while he is weary and discouraged. He and his troops will panic, and everyone will run away. Then I will kill only the king, and I will bring all the people back to you as a bride returns to her husband. After all, it is only one man’s life that you seek. Then you will be at peace with all the people.”  

  • Ahithophel proposes an immediate attack on David while he is weary and unprepared.

His plan is strategic: a swift strike would create panic, isolate David, and allow him to be killed without a prolonged war.

This would be a victory for Absalom that would not weaken the nation. 

This plan seemed good to Absalom and to all the elders of Israel.

Ahithophel offers the good advice to attack and kill David immediately.

With no one else to turn to, he says, the whole country would embrace Absalom.

If this advice had been followed, it is likely that David would have been defeated.

  • Ahithophel’s plan seemed good to Absalom and to all the elders of Israel.
  • Absalom’s rebellion appears to have gained backing from all the elders (leaders) of Israel”.

Hushai Counters Ahithophel’s Advice

But then Absalom said, “Bring in Hushai the Arkite. Let’s see what he thinks about this.”  

  • Although Ahithophel’s counsel is wise, Absalom still seeks a second opinion. 

Proverbs 11:14 & Proverbs 15:22 encourage the counsel of many.

 When Hushai arrived, Absalom told him what Ahithophel had said. Then he asked, “What is your opinion? Should we follow Ahithophel’s advice? If not, what do you suggest?”

“Well,” Hushai replied to Absalom, “this time Ahithophel has made a mistake. You know your father and his men; they are mighty warriors. Right now they are as enraged as a mother bear who has been robbed of her cubs. And remember that your father is an experienced man of war. He won’t be spending the night among the troops. He has probably already hidden in some pit or cave. And when he comes out and attacks and a few of your men fall, there will be panic among your troops, and the word will spread that Absalom’s men are being slaughtered. 10 Then even the bravest soldiers, though they have the heart of a lion, will be paralyzed with fear. For all Israel knows what a mighty warrior your father is and how courageous his men are.

Hushai, David’s secret ally, crafts his response to subtly undermine Ahithophel’s advice.

  • David’s double agent Hushai gave a convincing argument pointing out the weaknesses in Ahithophel’s plan.

Hushai reminds Absalom that David is a seasoned warrior, unlike Ahithophel’s portrayal of him as weak and exhausted.

He warns that David and his mighty men are “enraged, like a bear robbed of her cubs”.

He suggests that if an initial attack fails, Absalom’s troops will lose heart.

11 “I recommend that …

 

 

Living the New Life (Part 2)

Living the New Life (Part 2)

Appropriate Christian conduct.

This study is for all of us here in this place.

But also, consider the fact that this study could also be used to encourage spiritual growth, wisdom, and character development in the lives of the people we relate to on a regular basis, including the parents of our students.

Proverbs 27:17 NLT
17 As iron sharpens iron,
so a friend sharpens a friend.

This passage includes some strong statements.

“put to death” – “Have nothing to do with” – “now is the time to get rid of”

What are these phrases communicating to you?

Colossians 3:5-10 NLT
Living the New Life (Part 2)
So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. Because of these sins, the anger of God is coming. You used to do these things when your life was still part of this world. But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language. Don’t lie to each other, for you have stripped off your old sinful nature and all its wicked deeds. 10 Put on your new nature, and be renewed as you learn to know your Creator and become like him.

Examine the Scriptures:

Colossians 3:5-11 NLT

Living the New Life (Part 2)

Appropriate Christian conduct. 

So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. 

  • Put to death sinful behaviors and attitudes that belong to your old way of life. 

Remove sinful behaviors and attitudes that belonged to your old way of life before knowing Christ.

  • God has the major role in this transformation, but we also have a part to play in this.

In reality God has already done this for the believer, but as Christians we need to know this, count it to be true, and act accordingly.

Romans 6:6-7 NLT
We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin.

  • Our role is to make a conscious effort to “get rid of all the filth and evil in our lives” (James 1:21). This is not a passive process; it requires deliberate action.

Death to our sinful life must be made real in the way we live day by day. 

Paul lists some sinful behaviors and attitudes. 

Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires.

I don’t need to define these terms.  You know what they mean.

Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. 

Greedy people pursue the objects of their greed (money, possessions, power, etc.) in the place of God, with the hope of finding satisfaction in those things,

Skip to verses 8-9a

But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language. 

Again, I don’t need to define these terms.  You know what they mean.

Don’t lie to each other,

Lying is incompatible with the new life in Christ. Honesty and integrity should mark the relationships of those who follow Jesus, reflecting the truthfulness of God.

Lying destroys relationships.

  • Scripture lists sinful behaviors and attitudes that must not just be controlled but be “put to death”. These sinful behaviors and attitudes must be completely removed from our lives. 

Because of these sins, the anger of God is coming. 

This is a just and holy response to evil.

  • Sin has real consequences and God’s justice will ultimately prevail on those who persist in sinful behavior.

Some of the consequences for our sins.

Isaiah 59:2 NLT
It’s your sins that have cut you off from God.
Because of your sins, he has turned away
and will not listen anymore.

*Sin creates a barrier between humans and God. While believers have salvation through Christ, unrepented sin can hinder the believer’s relationship with God.

Psalm 66:16-20 NLT
16 Come and listen, all you who fear God,
and I will tell you what he did for me.
17 For I cried out to him for help,
praising him as I spoke.
18 If I had not confessed the sin in my heart,
the Lord would not have listened.

19 But God did listen!
He paid attention to my prayer.
20 Praise God, who did not ignore my prayer
or withdraw his unfailing love from me.
 

Persistent sin can affect a believer’s prayer life, making it difficult to feel connected to God.

Galatians 6:7-8 NLT
Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit.

Sin often has earthly consequences—broken relationships, emotional pain, or even legal consequences.

Psalm 32:3-4 NLT
When I refused to confess my sin,
my body wasted away,
and I groaned all day long.
Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me.
My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. 

Unconfessed sin can result in physical and mental suffering. 

You used to do these things when your life was still part of this world. 

Paul acknowledges that these sins were part of the believers past life, but they no longer define them as new creations in Christ. This is a call to remember their transformation and live according to their new identity.

A description of a person before they became a Christian.

Ephesians 4:17-19 NLT
17 With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused18 Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. 19 They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity.

2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT
17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

  • Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 

Back to verse 9b

for you have stripped off your old sinful nature and all its wicked deeds.

This is an event that has already taken place.

Colossians 1:11-14 NLT
11 We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy, 12 always thanking the Father. He has enabled you to share in the inheritance that belongs to his people, who live in the light. 13 For he has rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us into the Kingdom of his dear Son, 14 who purchased our freedom and forgave our sins.

  • Because believers have died with Christ, they can overcome sinful practices.

Romans 6:11 NLT
11 So you also should consider yourselves to be dead to the power of sin and alive to God through Christ Jesus.

Romans 6:18 NLT
18 Now you are free from your slavery to sin, and you have become slaves to righteous living. 

10 Put on your new nature, and be renewed as you learn to know your Creator and become like him.

This underscores the importance of embracing the new life offered in Christ and turning away from the destructive patterns of the old self.

Galatians 3:27 NLT
27 And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes.

  • The ultimate aim of the Christian life is to reflect the character of Christ and to be conformed to the image of God.

This verse commands an intentional action on our part, like putting on new clothes. It describes a conscious effort to embrace the new identity in Christ, leaving behind past sinful behaviors.

  • Scripture tells believers to strip off their old life and put on Christ’s new life, allowing Him to be Lord and guide the way they live.

1 Peter 2:1 NLT
2:1 So get rid of all evil behavior. Be done with all deceit, hypocrisy, jealousy, and all unkind speech.

Hebrews 12:1 NLT
12:1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.

Ephesians 4:22-24 NLT
22 throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. 23 Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. 24 Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy. 

We can’t do this on our own strength.

James 1:21 NLT
21 So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.

  • God’s word is powerful. It can transform our lives.

Hebrews 4:12 NLT
12 For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. 

2 Timothy 3:16-17 NLT
16 All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. 17 God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.

  • The transformation of Christians is an ongoing process. As believers grow in understanding and obedience, they become more like Christ.

David and Ziba

Two stories:

David and Ziba

Shimei Curses David

A Lesson on David’s Character.

Consider: Is there something in this lesson that you could apply to your life?

2 Samuel 16:1-14 NLT
David and Ziba
16:1 When David had gone a little beyond the summit of the Mount of Olives, Ziba, the servant of Mephibosheth, was waiting there for him. He had two donkeys loaded with 200 loaves of bread, 100 clusters of raisins, 100 bunches of summer fruit, and a wineskin full of wine.
“What are these for?” the king asked Ziba.
Ziba replied, “The donkeys are for the king’s people to ride on, and the bread and summer fruit are for the young men to eat. The wine is for those who become exhausted in the wilderness.”
“And where is Mephibosheth, Saul’s grandson?” the king asked him.
“He stayed in Jerusalem,” Ziba replied. “He said, ‘Today I will get back the kingdom of my grandfather Saul.’”
“In that case,” the king told Ziba, “I give you everything Mephibosheth owns.”
“I bow before you,” Ziba replied. “May I always be pleasing to you, my lord the king.”

Shimei Curses David

As King David came to Bahurim, a man came out of the village cursing them. It was Shimei son of Gera, from the same clan as Saul’s family. He threw stones at the king and the king’s officers and all the mighty warriors who surrounded him. “Get out of here, you murderer, you scoundrel!” he shouted at David. “The Lord is paying you back for all the bloodshed in Saul’s clan. You stole his throne, and now the Lord has given it to your son Absalom. At last you will taste some of your own medicine, for you are a murderer!”
“Why should this dead dog curse my lord the king?” Abishai son of Zeruiah demanded. “Let me go over and cut off his head!”
10 “No!” the king said. “Who asked your opinion, you sons of Zeruiah! If the Lord has told him to curse me, who are you to stop him?”
11 Then David said to Abishai and to all his servants, “My own son is trying to kill me. Doesn’t this relative of Saul have even more reason to do so? Leave him alone and let him curse, for the Lord has told him to do it. 12 And perhaps the Lord will see that I am being wronged and will bless me because of these curses today.” 13 So David and his men continued down the road, and Shimei kept pace with them on a nearby hillside, cursing and throwing stones and dirt at David.
14 The king and all who were with him grew weary along the way, so they rested when they reached the Jordan River.

Examine the Scriptures

2 Samuel 16:1-14 NLT
David and Ziba

16:1 When David had gone a little beyond the summit of the Mount of Olives, 

Refer to a Bible map. 

Ziba, the servant of Mephibosheth,

Read this brief review about Ziba:

2 Samuel 9 NLT
9:1 One day David asked, “Is anyone in Saul’s family still alive—anyone to whom I can show kindness for Jonathan’s sake?” He summoned a man named Ziba, who had been one of Saul’s servants. “Are you Ziba?” the king asked.
“Yes sir, I am,” Ziba replied.
The king then asked him, “Is anyone still alive from Saul’s family? If so, I want to show God’s kindness to them.”
Ziba replied, “Yes, one of Jonathan’s sons is still alive. He is crippled in both feet.”
So David sent for him and brought him from Makir’s home. His name was Mephibosheth; he was Jonathan’s son and Saul’s grandson.
12 …  From then on, all the members of Ziba’s household were Mephibosheth’s servants. 13 And Mephibosheth, who was crippled in both feet, lived in Jerusalem and ate regularly at the king’s table.

  • Ziba was the servant of Mephibosheth,
  • Mephibosheth was the disabled grandson of King Saul, and the son of Jonathon, whom David had taken into his care.

(Ziba) was waiting there for him. He had two donkeys loaded with 200 loaves of bread, 100 clusters of raisins, 100 bunches of summer fruit, and a wineskin full of wine.

Ziba was waiting for David.

  • Ziba arrives with provisions for David and his people.

Remember: (add this to the brief review of Ziba.)

2 Samuel 9:9-10 NLT
Then the king summoned Saul’s servant Ziba and said, “I have given your master’s grandson everything that belonged to Saul and his family. 10 You and your sons and servants are to farm the land for him to produce food for your master’s household. But Mephibosheth, your master’s grandson, will eat here at my table.” (Ziba had fifteen sons and twenty servants.)

Ziba had easy access to these resources.

“What are these for?” the king asked Ziba.

Don’t you wonder why David asked that question?

Ziba replied, “The donkeys are for the king’s people to ride on, and the bread and summer fruit are for the young men to eat. The wine is for those who become exhausted in the wilderness.” 

“And where is Mephibosheth, Saul’s grandson?” the king asked him. 

“He stayed in Jerusalem,” Ziba replied. “He said, ‘Today I will get back the kingdom of my grandfather Saul.’”

Ziba implies that the gifts are entirely his idea, and that Mephibosheth sees David’s difficulty as an opportunity to reclaim the kingdom. Ziba accused Mephibosheth of saying “Today I will get back the kingdom of my grandfather Saul”.

Ziba was lying to David.

In reality, it was Ziba looking to profit from this political crisis.

  • Ziba lied to David. Ziba was looking to profit from this political crisis in David’s life. 

“In that case,” the king told Ziba, “I give you everything Mephibosheth owns.”

  • David responds quickly, without hearing Mephibosheth’s side of the story.

David was quick to assume the worst.

“I bow before you,” Ziba replied. “May I always be pleasing to you, my lord the king.” 

Mephibosheth has the opportunity to share his side of the story at a later date.

2 Samuel 19:24-27 NLT
24 Now Mephibosheth, Saul’s grandson, came down from Jerusalem to meet the king. He had not cared for his feet, trimmed his beard, or washed his clothes since the day the king left Jerusalem. 25 “Why didn’t you come with me, Mephibosheth?” the king asked him.
26 Mephibosheth replied, “My lord the king, my servant Ziba deceived me. I told him, ‘Saddle my donkey so I can go with the king.’ For as you know I am crippled. 27 Ziba has slandered me by saying that I refused to come.

  • Shimei Curses David 

As King David came to Bahurim,

Bahurim was in the territory of Benjamin located on the eastern slope of the Mount of Olives.

Refer to a Bible map.

We know that some of Bahurim’s inhabitants were loyal to David, (Chapter 17) but since it was in the territory of Benjamin, Saul’s tribe, it is likely that many of the people harbored resentment against David’s rule.

a man came out of the village cursing them. It was Shimei son of Gera, from the same clan as Saul’s family. 

  • Shimei’s exact relation to Saul is unknown, but since he was from the same clan as Saul’s family, he likely had a strong loyalty to Saul.

He threw stones at the king and the king’s officers and all the mighty warriors who surrounded him.

Shimei was gutsy.

There were 600 men from Gath who had come with David, along with the king’s bodyguard. (15:18)

It would have been easy for David’s men to subdue Shimei. 

 “Get out of here, you murderer, you scoundrel!” he shouted at David. “The Lord is paying you back for all the bloodshed in Saul’s clan. You stole his throne, and now the Lord has given it to your son Absalom. At last you will taste some of your own medicine, for you are a murderer!”

These accusations likely stem from Shimei’s resentment over David’s rise to power and the perceived displacement of Saul’s lineage.

However, in reality, David never directly harmed Saul or his family—Saul died in battle, and David mourned his death.

  • Shimei’s accusations were clearly inaccurate, and if God was punishing David, it would have been for his sin with Bathsheba.

2 Samuel 12:10-11 NLT
10 From this time on, your family will live by the sword because you have despised me by taking Uriah’s wife to be your own.
11 “This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. … 

“Why should this dead dog curse my lord the king?” Abishai son of Zeruiah demanded.

Abishai is the son of Zeruiah, who is David’s sister, making him David’s nephew. His brothers are Joab (David’s military commander) and Asahel.

Abishai is one of David’s elite warriors.

  • Abishai is depicted as fiercely loyal, courageous, and sometimes impulsive—quick to suggest violent action in defense of David or justice.

This dead dog is an expression of absolute contempt. 

“Let me go over and cut off his head!”

  • Abishai wanted to kill Shimei and he certainly had the resources to do so. 

10 “No!” the king said. “Who asked your opinion, you sons of Zeruiah! 

If the Lord has told him to curse me, who are you to stop him?”

David displays remarkable self-control.

David is working to defuse the tension.

David recognized that God was allowing Shimei’s actions. In his understanding, nothing happens outside of God’s ultimate authority.

David may be wondering whether all this opposition is the Lord’s just punishment for his past sins, and he humbly endures the abuse.

David may have seen Shimei’s actions as a possible form of divine chastisement.

  • David leaves open the possibility that God has seen fit to terminate his rule.

2 Samuel 15:25-26 NLT
25 Then the king instructed Zadok to take the Ark of God back into the city. “If the Lord sees fit,” David said, “he will bring me back to see the Ark and the Tabernacle again. 26 But if he is through with me, then let him do what seems best to him.” 

11 Then David said to Abishai and to all his servants, “My own son is trying to kill me. Doesn’t this relative of Saul have even more reason to do so? Leave him alone and let him curse, for the Lord has told him to do it. 

David disagrees with Abishai’s impulsive violent reaction.

  • David’s response demonstrates his humility and acceptance of his circumstances. He chose not to retaliate, but to submit to what he perceived as God’s will.

David chooses humility and faith over vengeance, demonstrating a deep trust in God’s sovereign control.

David understood why a relative of Saul might hate him. 

12 And perhaps the Lord will see that I am being wronged and will bless me because of these curses today.”  

13 So David and his men continued down the road, and Shimei kept pace with them on a nearby hillside, cursing and throwing stones and dirt at David.

14 The king and all who were with him grew weary along the way, so they rested when they reached the Jordan River.

The journey from Jerusalem to the Jordan River was 21 miles. 

 

This passage highlights David’s character in adversity.  (Some good and some not so good.)

Though deceived by Ziba, he maintains humility and patience in the face of Shimei’s curses.

His response foreshadows Jesus’ teaching on loving enemies (Matthew 5:44) and serves as a model for enduring hardship with faith. 

Is there something in this lesson that you could apply to your life?

 

 

 

Living the New Life

Living the New Life

This lesson contains repetition of content from previous lessons.

This lesson has numerous reminders of familiar Biblical principles.

This lesson presents a huge challenge.

Colossians 3:1-4 NLT
Living the New Life
3:1 Since you have been raised to new life with Christ, set your sights on the realities of heaven, where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand. Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. And when Christ, who is your life, is revealed to the whole world, you will share in all his glory.

Examine the Scriptures:

Colossians 3:1-4 NLT
Living the New Life 

3:1 Since you have been raised to new life with Christ,

  • The Colossians were Christians (believers).

Colossians 1:6 NLT
This same Good News that came to you is going out all over the world. It is bearing fruit everywhere by changing lives, just as it changed your lives from the day you first heard and understood the truth about God’s wonderful grace.

Colossians 1:27 NLT
27 For God wanted them to know that the riches and glory of Christ are for you Gentiles, too. And this is the secret: Christ lives in you. This gives you assurance of sharing his glory.

Colossians 2:5 NLT
For though I am far away from you, my heart is with you. And I rejoice that you are living as you should and that your faith in Christ is strong.

As Christians, the Colossians have been raised to new life with Christ.

  • Believers experience a spiritual resurrection, a new life, through faith in Christ.

Colossians 2:12-13 NLT
12 For you were buried with Christ when you were baptized. And with him you were raised to new life because you trusted the mighty power of God, who raised Christ from the dead.
13 You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins.

Colossians 1:13 NLT
13 For he has rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us into the Kingdom of his dear Son, 

Romans 6:4 NLT
For we died and were buried with Christ by baptism. And just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glorious power of the Father, now we also may live new lives. 

Philippians 3:20 NLT
20 But we are citizens of heaven, where the Lord Jesus Christ lives. 

  • Christ lives in believers.

Ephesians 1:3 NLT
Spiritual Blessings
All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ. 

Galatians 2:20 NLT
20 My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.  So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. 

set your sights on the realities of heaven, 

The challenge: 

  • As Christians we need to be developing a mindset and lifestyle that focuses on eternal values.

We need to be shifting our mental and spiritual focus from the temporary, earthly concerns to the eternal, heavenly ones.

We need to think about and meditate on the nature of heaven, its promises, and its realities, recognizing that our true home is in heaven. 

where Christ sits in the place of honor at God’s right hand.

  • Christ is in a position of authority and honor.

Luke 22:69 NLT
69 But from now on the Son of Man will be seated in the place of power at God’s right hand.

1 Peter 3:22 NLT
22 Now Christ has gone to heaven. He is seated in the place of honor next to God, and all the angels and authorities and powers accept his authority.

Hebrews 1:3 NLT
The Son radiates God’s own glory and expresses the very character of God, and he sustains everything by the mighty power of his command. When he had cleansed us from our sins, he sat down in the place of honor at the right hand of the majestic God in heaven.

Believers have a connection to Christ, who is seated in heaven.

What is Christ doing for us?

Romans 8:34 NLT
34 Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us. 

interceding for us. (ESV, NIV) 

Heaven is the place we, as believers, will be with Christ for all of eternity.  It certainly merits our attention. 

Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth.            

Two options. 

The contrast between “things of heaven” and “things of earth” highlights the fundamental choice believers face.

This reinforces the previous verse (“set your sights”), emphasizing the need for a conscious and deliberate focus on spiritual matters.

It’s not just about outward action but an inward mindset. The heart and thoughts should be oriented towards God’s purposes, values, and kingdom, rather than being consumed by earthly desires or anxieties.

Christians are encouraged to cultivate a mindset fixed on eternal realities, which influences how they live in the present.

  • The believer’s focus should be on eternal, spiritual matters, rather than earthly concerns. 

Romans 12:2 NLT
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Philippians 4:8 NLT
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.  

Matthew 6:19-34 NLT
Teaching about Money and Possessions
19 “Don’t store up treasures here on earth, where moths eat them and rust destroys them, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. 21 Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.

25 “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? 27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?
28 “And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, 29 yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. 30 And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?
31 “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. 33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
34 “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.

1 John 2:15-17 NLT
Do Not Love This World
15 Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. 16 For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. 17 And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.

For you died to this life,

Romans 6:5-11 NLT
Since we have been united with him in his death, we will also be raised to life as he was. We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin. For when we died with Christ we were set free from the power of sin. And since we died with Christ, we know we will also live with him. We are sure of this because Christ was raised from the dead, and he will never die again. Death no longer has any power over him. 10 When he died, he died once to break the power of sin. But now that he lives, he lives for the glory of God. 11 So you also should consider yourselves to be dead to the power of sin and alive to God through Christ Jesus.

2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT
17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

Galatians 6:14 NLT
14 As for me, may I never boast about anything except the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ. Because of that cross, my interest in this world has been crucified, and the world’s interest in me has also died.

Believers are united with Christ.
Their penalty of sin was paid.
They arose with Christ in new life.

  • Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 

and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. 

A believer’s security and identity are in Christ.

1 Corinthians 6:17 NLT
17 But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

2 Peter 1:4 NLT
And because of his glory and excellence, he has given us great and precious promises. These are the promises that enable you to share his divine nature and escape the world’s corruption caused by human desires.

John 10:28 NLT
28 I give them eternal life, and they will never perish. No one can snatch them away from me,

Hebrews 7:25 NLT
25 Therefore he is able, once and forever, to save those who come to God through him. He lives forever to intercede with God on their behalf.

1 Peter 1:4 NLT
and we have a priceless inheritance—an inheritance that is kept in heaven for you, pure and undefiled, beyond the reach of change and decay.

  • Believers have “died” to their old, sinful nature. Their true life is now secure, hidden in Christ. This speaks of both security (protected in God) and mystery (our full identity in Christ is not yet fully revealed). 

And when Christ, who is your life, 

When Christ who is your life ESV & NIV

  • “Christ who is your life” reiterates that Christ is the source and essence of the believer’s life.

Christ is the one who gives spiritual life and sustains it.

Believer’s identity, hope, and purpose are rooted in Him.

The believer’s life is to reflect His character, values, and love. 

And when Christ, who is your life, is revealed to the whole world, you will share in all his glory. 

When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. ESV & NIV

Revelation 19:11-16 NLT
The Rider on the White Horse
11 Then I saw heaven opened, and a white horse was standing there. Its rider was named Faithful and True, for he judges fairly and wages a righteous war. 12 His eyes were like flames of fire, and on his head were many crowns. A name was written on him that no one understood except himself. 13 He wore a robe dipped in blood, and his title was the Word of God. 14 The armies of heaven, dressed in the finest of pure white linen, followed him on white horses. 15 From his mouth came a sharp sword to strike down the nations. He will rule them with an iron rod. He will release the fierce wrath of God, the Almighty, like juice flowing from a winepress. 16 On his robe at his thigh was written this title: King of all kings and Lord of all lords.

This looks forward to Christ’s return, when believers will fully share in his glory.

  • When Christ returns believers will share in all his glory.

David Escapes from Jerusalem

David Escapes from Jerusalem

In this lesson we get a glimpse of the heart of a leader who seeks God in the midst of betrayal and uncertainty.

2 Samuel 15:19-37 NLT
19 Then the king turned and said to Ittai, a leader of the men from Gath, “Why are you coming with us? Go on back to King Absalom, for you are a guest in Israel, a foreigner in exile. 20 You arrived only recently, and should I force you today to wander with us? I don’t even know where we will go. Go on back and take your kinsmen with you, and may the Lord show you his unfailing love and faithfulness.”
21 But Ittai said to the king, “I vow by the Lord and by your own life that I will go wherever my lord the king goes, no matter what happens—whether it means life or death.”
22 David replied, “All right, come with us.” So Ittai and all his men and their families went along.
23 Everyone cried loudly as the king and his followers passed by. They crossed the Kidron Valley and then went out toward the wilderness.
24 Zadok and all the Levites also came along, carrying the Ark of the Covenant of God. They set down the Ark of God, and Abiathar offered sacrifices until everyone had passed out of the city.
25 Then the king instructed Zadok to take the Ark of God back into the city. “If the Lord sees fit,” David said, “he will bring me back to see the Ark and the Tabernacle again. 26 But if he is through with me, then let him do what seems best to him.”
27 The king also told Zadok the priest, “Look, here is my plan. You and Abiathar should return quietly to the city with your son Ahimaaz and Abiathar’s son Jonathan. 28 I will stop at the shallows of the Jordan River and wait there for a report from you.” 29 So Zadok and Abiathar took the Ark of God back to the city and stayed there.
30 David walked up the road to the Mount of Olives, weeping as he went. His head was covered and his feet were bare as a sign of mourning. And the people who were with him covered their heads and wept as they climbed the hill. 31 When someone told David that his adviser Ahithophel was now backing Absalom, David prayed, “O Lord, let Ahithophel give Absalom foolish advice!”
32 When David reached the summit of the Mount of Olives where people worshiped God, Hushai the Arkite was waiting there for him. Hushai had torn his clothing and put dirt on his head as a sign of mourning. 33 But David told him, “If you go with me, you will only be a burden. 34 Return to Jerusalem and tell Absalom, ‘I will now be your adviser, O king, just as I was your father’s adviser in the past.’ Then you can frustrate and counter Ahithophel’s advice. 35 Zadok and Abiathar, the priests, will be there. Tell them about the plans being made in the king’s palace, 36 and they will send their sons Ahimaaz and Jonathan to tell me what is going on.”
37 So David’s friend Hushai returned to Jerusalem, getting there just as Absalom arrived.

Examine the Scriptures

David Escapes from Jerusalem

2 Samuel 15:19-37 NLT 

  • At this point in the story King David is leaving Jerusalem with all his household and personal guards, except for the ten concubines he left behind to look after the palace.

2 Samuel 15:13-14 NLT
David Escapes from Jerusalem
13 A messenger soon arrived in Jerusalem to tell David, “All Israel has joined Absalom in a conspiracy against you!”
14 “Then we must flee at once, or it will be too late!” David urged his men. “Hurry! If we get out of the city before Absalom arrives, both we and the city of Jerusalem will be spared from disaster.”

Scripture does not tell us how many people left with David, but we do know that the group included:

600 men from Gath (v. 18)
Along with the king’s bodyguard (v.18)
His personal servants and officials (v. 15-16)
Zadok and all the Levites (v.24)
Other loyal followers

All indications are that David plans to return to Jerusalem at some point in time.

2 Samuel 15:16 NLT
16 So the king and all his household set out at once. He left no one behind except ten of his concubines to look after the palace. 

2 Samuel 15:25 NLT
… “If the Lord sees fit,” David said, “he will bring me back to see the Ark and the Tabernacle again.  

1 Samuel 16:13 NLT
13 So as David stood there among his brothers, Samuel took the flask of olive oil he had brought and anointed David with the oil. And the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David from that day on. Then Samuel returned to Ramah.

2 Samuel 5:12 NLT
12 And David realized that the Lord had confirmed him as king over Israel and had blessed his kingdom for the sake of his people Israel. 

19 Then the king turned and said to Ittai, a leader of the men from Gath, “Why are you coming with us? Go on back to King Absalom, for you are a guest in Israel, a foreigner in exile. 20 You arrived only recently, and should I force you today to wander with us? I don’t even know where we will go. Go on back and take your kinsmen with you, and may the Lord show you his unfailing love and faithfulness.”

  • David urged Ittai and his kinsmen to return to Jerusalem.

21 But Ittai said to the king, “I vow by the Lord and by your own life that I will go wherever my lord the king goes, no matter what happens—whether it means life or death.”

Ittai was a guest in Israel, a foreigner in exile who arrived only recently.

Ittai may have seen David as the rightful and just leader of Israel.

Ittai displayed his loyalty to David by going into exile with David.

  • Ittai must have seen something very special in David’s leadership and character to vow to go with David no matter what happens.

Later:

2 Samuel 18:1-2 NLT
18:1 David now mustered the men who were with him and appointed generals and captains to lead them. He sent the troops out in three groups, placing one group under Joab, one under Joab’s brother Abishai son of Zeruiah, and one under Ittai, the man from Gath.

David later appoints Ittai as commander of one-third of his army indicating his appreciation for Ittai’s loyalty. 

22 David replied, “All right, come with us.” So Ittai and all his men and their families went along. 

23 Everyone cried loudly as the king and his followers passed by.

David was a beloved leader, and his departure signaled not just a personal loss but a national crisis. The people’s weeping signifies deep sorrow, loyalty, and uncertainty about the future.

There was the potential for a radical, disastrous change in the leadership of Israel. 

They crossed the Kidron Valley and then went out toward the wilderness. 

  • The wilderness often symbolizes a place of testing, hardship, and isolation. 

Jesus spent 40 days fasting in the wilderness, where He was tempted by Satan.

The Israelites wandered in the wilderness for 40 years after their exodus from Egypt

For David, this was a return to the kind of hardship he had faced in earlier years while fleeing Saul. 

24 Zadok and all the Levites also came along, carrying the Ark of the Covenant of God. They set down the Ark of God, and Abiathar offered sacrifices until everyone had passed out of the city.

Zadok and Abiathar were chief priests.

  • The presence of Zadok, Abiathar and the Levites underscores their loyalty to David as God’s chosen king. 

25 Then the king instructed Zadok to take the Ark of God back into the city.

  • David does not take the Ark with him.  David knows that possession of the ark does not guarantee God’s blessing.

David believes that the Ark needs to stay in Jerusalem as a symbol of the Lord’s rule over the nation, no matter who the king might be. (2 Samuel 6)

2 Samuel 6:17 NLT
17 They brought the Ark of the Lord and set it in its place inside the special tent David had prepared for it. And David sacrificed burnt offerings and peace offerings to the Lord. 

It was David, not the Lord who was going into exile. 

“If the Lord sees fit,” David said, “he will bring me back to see the Ark and the Tabernacle again. 26 But if he is through with me, then let him do what seems best to him.”

David understands the following Biblical principle:

Daniel 2:21 NLT
21 He controls the course of world events;
he removes kings and sets up other kings.
He gives wisdom to the wise
and knowledge to the scholars.

Romans 13:1 NLT
Respect for Authority
13:1 Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. 

  • David is putting his life into the hands of the Lord. 

27 The king also told Zadok the priest, “Look, here is my plan. You and Abiathar should return quietly to the city with your son Ahimaaz and Abiathar’s son Jonathan. 28 I will stop at the shallows of the Jordan River and wait there for a report from you.” 

More about this in verses 35-36

29 So Zadok and Abiathar took the Ark of God back to the city and stayed there.

30 David walked up the road to the Mount of Olives, weeping as he went. His head was covered and his feet were bare as a sign of mourning.

Indicating his depth of despair.

And the people who were with him covered their heads and wept as they climbed the hill. 

The Mount of Olives was the location from which Jesus ascended into heaven (Acts 1:9-12). 

31 When someone told David that his adviser Ahithophel was now backing Absalom, David prayed, “O Lord, let Ahithophel give Absalom foolish advice!”

Ahithophel was one of David’s advisors.

1 Chronicles 27:33 NLT
33 Ahithophel was the royal adviser…

  • David now learned that his advisor Ahithophel had joined Absalom’s cause.

2 Samuel 15:12 NLT
12 While Absalom was offering the sacrifices, he sent for Ahithophel, one of David’s counselors who lived in Giloh. 

Don’t miss what is happening here! 

32 When David reached the summit of the Mount of Olives where people worshiped God, Hushai the Arkite was waiting there for him.

Hushai the Arkite was a loyal friend and advisor of King David.

1 Chronicles 27:33 NLT
33 Ahithophel was the royal adviser. Hushai the Arkite was the king’s friend.

While the Arkites were likely Canaanites by origin, Hushai was a trusted ally of David, suggesting that he had integrated into Israelite society and was a devoted supporter of the king.

Hushai had torn his clothing and put dirt on his head as a sign of mourning. 33 But David told him, “If you go with me, you will only be a burden. 34 Return to Jerusalem and tell Absalom, ‘I will now be your adviser, O king, just as I was your father’s adviser in the past.’ Then you can frustrate and counter Ahithophel’s advice. 

David sends Hushai back to Jerusalem to act as a spy within Absalom’s court. He is tasked with countering the counsel of Ahithophel, Absalom’s chief advisor, whose advice was highly regarded. (More about this later in the story.)

  • David sends Hushai back to Jerusalem to act as a spy within Absalom’s court. 

35 Zadok and Abiathar, the priests, will be there. Tell them about the plans being made in the king’s palace, 36 and they will send their sons Ahimaaz and Jonathan to tell me what is going on.”

David is asking Hushai to tell him Absalom plans (through Ahimaaz and Jonathan).

  • David is setting up a system of communication between himself and Jerusalem.

Refer back to verse 27.

27 The king also told Zadok the priest, “Look, here is my plan. You and Abiathar should return quietly to the city with your son Ahimaaz and Abiathar’s son Jonathan. 28 I will stop at the shallows of the Jordan River and wait there for a report from you.” 

37 So David’s friend Hushai returned to Jerusalem, getting there just as Absalom arrived.